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HEARING IS BELIEVING

How Words Can Make or Break Our Kids

Recipient of The National Parenting Center's 2004 Seal of Approval, Hearing Is Believing offers guidance for parents of children of all ages.

Award-winning author Elisa Medhus argues that even seemingly harmless phrases, such as “you’re such a good girl,” can encourage children to become approval seekers, thwart their ability to reason, or both. Over time, these children become less inclined to trust their parents’ guidance and internalize their values. Exposing potentially harmful words and phrases, many that may surprise readers, this book suggests language changes that are simple to implement and keep up.

The words we say to children can have a profound effect — positive or negative — yet too often adults criticize or praise children without considering what they are really telling the child. By thinking before speaking, we can do more than pay lip service to the values we hope to instill. Hearing Is Believing offers easy-to-implement guidelines for changing how we talk to children. Dr. Elisa Medhus speaks from her own experience with kids,
offering much-needed alternatives to the negative or damaging phrases we often use. Her suggestions can help us teach children to think for themselves. Stories illustrate positive results.

Endorsements

“When you love your children and speak to them following the guidelines Elisa Medhus offers in this book you will avoid turning them into ugly ducklings who must find their own beauty and re-parent themselves. So listen, believe, and heal.”
— Dr. Bernie Siegel, author of Love, Medicine, and Miracles

“Practical, immediately useful advice for every parent-child interaction, this book is laced with humor and written with joy. Reading this, parents can’t help but be more effective with their children!”
— Foster W. Cline, MD, coauthor of Parenting with Love and Logic and Parenting Teens with Love and Logic

“Hearing Is Believing is as fun to read as it is useful. The humor and insights drew me in, and I found myself applying the principles with my children almost immediately. But the best part of the book is that Elisa Medhus’s suggestions worked!”
— Shelly Brady, mother of six and author of New York Times bestseller Ten Things I Learned from Bill Porter